February, traditionally cold and snowy, provides perfect snuggling weather. Pair it with Valentine’s Day and it seems like the perfect time to talk about having sex.   It can feel really awkward to talk about some aspects of sex, especially when it is a potentially new experience. However, it can also be fun. Whether it’s a new relationship, a first time, a new position or a new contraception. All of these firsts create a great opportunity to talk. While it may feel like you need a lawyer when giving and getting consent, that doesn’t have to be the case.  Consent is definitely the first ingredient to great sex. Knowing your partner is important. Making sure that communication is clear and the signs are understood. If you’re unsure what something means, it’s always a good idea to check.  Here are some fun ways to ask and tell your partner what you like and don’t like.   Words: Asking for what you want is sexy. Knowing what you want and don’t want is an important first step to asking for it. Listen to yourself and the person you are with to move forward.   Body Language: We communicate all day through body language, consciously and sometimes unconsciously. Ask your partner what kinds of body language say, “YES, do more of that,” and what body language says, “No, I’m not crazy about that.”  Examples of “yes” may be kissing, squeezing buns, thrusting hips, etc. Examples of “no” may be moving someone’s hand away from the area your significant other is touching, a slight shake of the head, or shifting away from the action.    Sounds and Facial Expressions: We make a lot of sounds that aren’t actual words, but can really communicate what we’re feeling. Combine them with a facial expression and you can have very clear communication about what is or is not working for you.  Make a game out of trying on different sounds and letting your partner interpret them — creating rewards for correct interpretation can be part of the fun.   Direction: Offering direction is wonderful. Whether it is putting someone’s hand where you would like it or giving a one-word direction – i.e. “faster” – this is usually an incredibly helpful and sexy way to communicate with your partner.