Dear Dr. Schmynic, I’ve been happily dating my boyfriend for 10 months now, but every time I have an issue I want to discuss he becomes very guilty. I don’t mean to accuse him of anything, but I want him to know when something’s bothering me. I’ve tried using “I” statements like I learned in psych. 1, but he still becomes increasingly whiny and guilty whenever I broach a worry, even one so mundane as leaving the toilet seat up. Any suggestions? ~Clammed up on Campus
