The Perfect Partner

The rare occurrence of true love, in which there is a “happily ever after,” seems to exist only in the plotlines of “Say Anything” and “The Wedding Singer.” However, UVM students have rigid and varied expectations for their perfect match. That perfect person for true love is envisioned only in dreams where one is standing opposite John Cusack or Drew Barrymore. Right?Despite the fiction, true love really does exist, according to R. J. Stern?berg, author of “Love: The Way You Want It,” as seen in “Human Motivation” by Robert E. Franken. True love in the modern world is defined as “the combination of intimacy, passion, and commitment,” according to Steinberg’s book, thus creating “consummate love.” Yet can this person ever really exist? It seems that the unlucky single ones are left gorging on chocolate, watching sappy movies and trying to forget the impossibility of their soul mate’s existence.Regardless, UVM students stand strong in their specific requirements in a mate. The perfect guy “must be able to study the Bible and jam out to the Red Hot Chili Peppers” pronounced Ashley Fowler, a UVM senior.On the other hand, Stephanie Mann, a UVM freshman, also has a very specific list of qualities, including “a poet’s soul, work[er’s] hands and a beard.”Not only have the women thought about their perfect partner, the men have opinions too. A UVM freshman, Matt Towle, wants a woman with whom he can “work together, while finding love through the communication.” Still others want the perfect girl to be “someone who finds me funny,” a small desire of Tristan Whitehouse, a UVM sophomore.According to Steinberg, true love cannot come without passion, intimacy, and commitment, yet people continually add extra qualifications for their perfect partner.Even with the seemingly impossible amount of qualifications one must have to be the perfect partner, Jeff Scott, a UVM sophomore, re?minds everyone that “how you look at someone [is a] lens that changes as you get to know them.”All these qualities might not even be necessary for a perfect partner to exist. The most important trait in a man for Bronwin Gulkis, a UVM freshman, is that he “must enjoy being with Bronwin Gulkis.” For those who have found that perfect partner, the pressing question remains on how to show that love, especially with Valentine’s Day right around the corner.Some people find the holiday to be too commercialized. The corporate takeover of the holiday diminishes the true meaning of Valentine’s Day for some. “[People] shouldn’t tell [loved ones] they care about them through the words of a corporation,” said Kalee Ijames, a freshman at UVM. The future may seem bleak with corporate America defining both the holiday of love and the price of chocolate, yet all hope is not lost for those who have not yet found their perfect partner.Those who search for the perfect partner will continue on Valentine’s Day. UVM freshman Annie Pierce recommends delaying their chocolate solution as “the day after, the chocolate is so cheap!”